DBT Relationship Tools at Mac App Store analyse

Fantastic Tools for Interpersonal Relationships! DBT Communication skills boil down to two things: Asking for what you want, and saying No. You may have trouble asking for what you want for one of the following reasons: - Youre too shy to ask. - You are worried they will say no. - You dont feel like you deserve getting what you want. - You just feel uncomfortable. - Maybe you dont have trouble asking, but you have trouble actually getting what you want instead. You also may have trouble saying no. It could be due to: - You think its not polite to say no. - Youre worried what someone will think of you if you say no. - You think you dont deserve to say no. - You think you cant say no. - Or maybe you dont have trouble saying no, but you have trouble saying it in a way that doesnt cause problems. We all have things we want. If you have trouble communicating this in an effective way (a way that doesnt make things worse and increases the likelihood of you getting what you want), then this app is for you. How this app will help you -------------------------- Like all our Tools apps, well start you off with a description of what DBT is. While DBT is a set of skills, there is also a sort of culture around it. And a way of teaching/learning it. Getting an overview of what DBT is, you can more easily see where the skills fit in, and where you can most effectively integrate them into your day-to-day. Then well go over the 7 DBT Interpersonal Communication skills: • Wise Mind • Observe • Describe • Participate • Non-Judgmental • One-Mindfully • Effectiveness Finally, well start you off using the Interactive Tools: • Interpersonal Checklist: First, lets start by figuring out what myths you have about your relationships with others. As you progress through DBT, be sure to come back and see how your beliefs may have changed. • Validation Quiz: Test yourself through several hypothetical situations. What is the difference between validation and flattery for instance? Knowing this can greatly improve any interaction, as validating another human being can be incredibly powerful. • DEARMAN Builder: Probably the single most powerful skill you will learn in the Interpersonal Relationship area of DBT. Use this tool to quickly and effectively create and rehearse DEARMAN scripts. Dont know what a DEARMAN is? Well, think of it as a rather methodical set of steps to getting what you want out of a conversation with someone. Want a raise? DEARMAN. Want to ask someone out? DEARMAN. Want to reconcile after a fight? DEARMAN. • Intensity Calculator: Until you really get a feel for how you realistically stand in regard to others, you may be drastically off when it comes the intensity you ask for what you want, or say no. For instance, if youre an employee, and you normally get a yearly raise, and its been 13 months, then you wouldnt want to scream at your boss. But if its been 3 years, you definitely would want to increase your intensity over the 13 month you. Use this calculator to figure out how intensely you should communicate something to another. Especially during emotionally charged situations, your natural instinct may be way off. So you may find yourself using this calculator time and time again. Many of these tools are powerful while youre first learning DBT. But they are also incredibly powerful as a refresher, whether its been several years since you last practiced, or you just cant remember how to do the skill properly. Maybe youre overwhelmed, or maybe youre just new to the skill. Beginners and Advanced DBT practitioners will find value in this app now, and for years to come should they remember to use it. * Note that this app can integrate with the Health App by adding Mindful Minutes when you complete DEARMAN entries. This is optional and giving permission will not affect your ability to use this app.